Approaching a woman at a bar or club (Dealing with Rejection)

Good evening or morning guys, today I am going to give you all the answers for approaching that hotty at the bar. We have all played it out in our heads, what we would do and say. But in reality, the music is too loud, or she just isn’t interested, or she’s actually a man with long hair (That’s never happened to me though, let’s not jump to conclusions.) Most blogs will give you the generic list of be confident, dress well, make eye contact and come across as a strong man. Well I’m gonna show you how to pick up that hotty without being confident, dressing well or making eye contact. If you still feel this is impossible after reading my last blog post, here’s a random disclaimer…

Now let’s begin…                           

First of all, arrive to the bar late, NEVER on time, here’s why. If you arrive to a bar or club on time, you have to deal with the awkward moments where there are only a few people at the bar. Now if you are ballin, you can just wait by the bar for the girl you like to arrive and just splurt out “I’m about to get me a shot, and you’re standing next to me, so what shot are you having?” But if you’re not balling, you don’t want to compete with them guys, when you’re more advanced at this then sure, head straight into battle they won’t stand a chance.

So here is the fool-proof strategy to getting that pretty young thang. Arrive later, by this time the hot women at the bar have already been spoken to by tons of guys more than once. So when they see you for the first time 3 hours later, they will be thinking “oooo, fresh meat”. I dunno, maybe its just the venues I go to, but this usually works. You wait till the end of the night, this is when you can go over and ask her “Hey, why are you chilling by yourself”. Because they have already seen you, and you didn’t approach her earlier with the other thirsty guys, you have already earned some points, she’s all yours bro.

The best thing to do when you are trying to kill those 3 hours inside the bar, is make it seem like you are having the most fun in there with your boys, or whoever you came with. Even if these are a bunch of guys you hired to pretend to be your friends for the night, you make sure all of you look like you are having a great time. Nobody wants to be left out of the party, so you will have pairs of girls that came alone looking to get in with you guys. Works every time. One time me and a group of my friends decided to have a dance battle. It got messy, it got silly, in fact it got pretty amazing because we are all semi-pro breakdancers, but even our non breaker friends were involved. Once it ended, an overwhelming sense of “Any lady in here is mine” came over me. Now obviously you probably aren’t a breaker, but it wasn’t the fact that we were dancers, it’s the fact that we were having a good time, and others wanted to join.

Enjoy yourself, and others will want to be a part of your fun. When you see somebody so care free and enjoying life, you may envy them, but you also want to learn their secrets. Same sh*t different toilet amigo. So have fun with these, and remember… Chocolate is the devils toothpaste!

Part 3 coming tomorrow.

Approaching a woman in person (The big city – London Town Special)

So first off, leave all of the artsy type lines at home, they will get you nowhere. Unless you’re trying to pick up a 15 year old, telling them you’re an underground rapper, or an aspiring writer will get you nowhere. So let’s start with a blank canvas, everything you have ever known to be true about picking up girls, forget that ish, I’m gonna give you some real ish. And if you don’t believe that this ish is for real, here’s a random disclaimer…

Now let’s begin…

You are probably wondering who the hell I am, well my friend, I am black writing on a white canvas, bow before me! In reality I’m just an aspiring artist who has also had quite a lot of success in the realm of dating, (If only I could monetize that.) Anyways, you didn’t come here to read about me, who cares who I am, lets get into the approach shall we.

With practice comes perfection, and with perfection comes all of the chicas you can dream of. The aim of the game is to distract her from the get go, don’t let her realize you are making your move until it is too late, she’s already fallen for your amazing personality. How do you do this you ask? Conversation of course. The first thing you need to do is identify your surroundings; lets say you see a hotty at the bus stop, its completely normal for somebody to ask “Excuse me, have you been waiting long?” BOOM step one complete, she will answer you, unless she doesn’t take the bait, in which case she has probably read this blog. No worries though, for the remainder of this blog I will type every word backwards, get your mirrors ready. In fact I will just tell you how to counter her non bait taking…. It’s simple, fire another question at her, fire on all cylinders, “Do you know how long it will take to get to…” or “Did you know the Tiberian dung beetle can travel at 70mph during mating season”, all you need is that first response.

Anyways, once she responds to you with an actual sentence, that’s when you go in for the kill and say “Actually, do you mind if I just ask you a really important question, it’s of the utmost importance really?” She will be curious, and very likely say sure; she’s thinking, a random question beats listening to the same 5 songs on my ipod for the next 20 minutes. Now is your chance to wow her with the most random question you could possibly think of, I usually go for “Do you prefer Tomatoes or Cucumber?” She will either giggle, or keep a straight face and answer your question. Now its time for your finisher, “Sorry I was being silly, I just wanted to talk to you, hi my name is Tyrael!” Go in for the hand shake, guaranteed. Take it from here guys, and remember… A woodpecker without a pecker, is just a block of wood!

Part 2 coming tomorrow - Approaching a woman at a bar!